Have you ever just met that one person and thought wow, he/she could actually be the "ONE". It just baffles me how quick relationships form and at the same time break down so quickly. It also baffles me how you can visualise a future with this someone and the next minute you just think they're the devil's spawn and throw everything away cause of stupid argument.
I always used to think that the only way for a certain relationship to last and actually work was to gradually build up to it e.g. meet - become friends - best friends then RELATIONSHIP. I agreed with this because who wouldn't want to know and scope out the perimeters of their future girlfriend/boyfriend? But then at the same time you hear people talking about the "friend zone" and friends can never date and other sorts of crap. What REALLY is the best way to meet your other half?
All previous relationships that I have been in have always gone in the direction of my perception of a perfect relationship, but in all honestly they didn't end very well. Meeting my current other half happened so unexpectedly really scared me to the point where i was questioning myself to what the hell i was thinking?! But maybe this was for the best.
I met him whilst being in university, we were flatmates. FLATMATES, if someone ever told me before university that I was going to date someone in my flat I would of never believed them, purely because of the fact that if things didn't end well it would be so awkward. Believe me I did kind of go through that stage but it actually turned out pretty good, I'm still with him and I'm happy.
Whenever you are thrown into relationship you never really know what to expect, I certainly didn't. But sometimes you just luck out and you find someone that just perfectly matches you and you both just click or as some say "get on like a house on fire". It does make me chuckle though thinking about the fights and tiffs you get in because you hardly know each other and you don't really know that does and doesn't tick them off. I used to have little tiffs about shutting doors and just the stupid little things.
But it did make me realise when I was totally falling for this guy. I think everyone one does when they realise they really see a future with their other half. You know those cheesy moments when you just end up smiling like the Cheshire cat to yourself because you are just so contented and happy being with that person. Also you make an effort to try to make up with them after a silly argument, even though you know your probably going to have another one in the near future about something else silly like what type of food you want to eat for dinner.
Honestly sometimes you do have to eat your ego and just suck things up and admit your wrong doing. For some that's not easy to do. But if they are willing to keep trying and won't give up, I think that's when you also know that you've got a keeper. Another thing is the word "LOVE". This term is just used generically left right and centre in todays society and I see it loosing its authenticity. Don't say it for the sake of pleasing someone, fooling them or just a way to save something that your not fully committing to. Say it like you mean it when its truly authentic.
I guess with relationships you never really know what to expect. Feelings are confusing and sometimes you just can't explain how you feel towards someone. I think the feeling of the unknown makes people feel uncomfortable and sometimes it does end badly but I like to think of it as a learning curb and it just betters you for someone better. Also sometimes finding someone unexpectedly isn't so bad. Everyones perception is always going to be different and my advise is go for what makes you happy and always give 110%, because who wouldn't feel insecure or suspicious if someone was only giving 50% of themselves to a person they supposedly "love".
Anyways enough rambling . . .
Maui x